Oh yes you can

When it comes to life, I am not adverse to dreaming on a large scale (go big or go home). And yet I remain ineffably grounded in reality. Words such as scaleable and practical come to mind. And, my all time favorite, doable.

I like doable because it is a word that neither dashes hope nor over-promises. Doable simply says, this thing could be done. Put another way, it is possible. And that leaves a lot of latitude.

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And the phonetic rendering is absolutely charming…

When I first learned I had cancer and specifically, lung cancer–I knew I was heading into some stiff winds. However the little voice in my head said, ‘This is going to be hard but I can do this.’

That can-do attitude has served me extraordinarily well, and the word can’t has been pretty much excised from my vocabulary.

The truth is, some words just aren’t particularly useful. Take cure; that word is absolute bullshit. First of all, the meaning is nebulous: ‘relieve (a person or animal) of the symptoms of a disease or condition’. Secondly, the impact of a word like cure is potentially nefarious.

Everyone with cancer wants to be cured. Far too many of us have been told we never will be, that our cancer is ‘incurable’. The distinction/distance between these two supposed states–cured and incurable–is one of immense emotional devastation.

It you are incurable, than what can you possibly hope for?

Well, how about being healed. Whereas cure may be a technical impossibility, (and do remember, these are words, all words, not necessarily realities), healing is actually incredibly doable. The definition of healing is ‘to become sound or healthy again’.

So do it. Reframe the way you regard yourself. Discard that which is unhelpful and even hurtful. Embrace where you are at at right now. Heal yourself.

xo

16 responses to “Oh yes you can

  1. Wonderful, Linnea. I am 76, have had a miserable case of Ulcerative Colitis since age 40, a deep melanoma at 50 and Stage IV LC since age 72. I honestly describe myself as healthy. I have low blood pressure, low cholesterol, no arthritis, a good mind….that’s healthy. Medicines are working to keep the cancer and the colitis from killing me. So, I agree with you. This is doable. Totally. XXOO

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  2. Change Your Thoughts
    Change Your Life
    Dr. Wayne Dyer

  3. Marie Hazelton

    Thank you needed to hear this today 💖

  4. Lisa Crandall

    Your positivity continues to amaze me. The way you reframe things puts a whole new perspective on life and living. You truly are an inspiration to so many people.

    I send you healing thoughts.

  5. yes! Thank you!!

  6. Your perspective is ‘spot on’
    Your words make me smile.
    Thanks xx

  7. Love your blogs! They give me hope, and also permission. Thank you!

  8. Hey Beautiful Lady!!! So happy to see you still blogging and still being uniquely you.
    Lovelovelove,
    Deborah

  9. As a fellow traveler living life from scan to scan I prefer to think of myself as dealing with a serious chronic illness. Makes walking this road a bit easier

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