For all you tough mothers out there

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Happy Day; this one’s ours.

Like all holidays, it feels a bit bittersweet. A reminder of good times but also bad.

Four years ago I took my first dose of lorlatinib (image from that momentous occasion shown above). Several days later I started coughing up specks of blood. By the morning of day six, my hemoptysis was significant enough that Dr. Shaw asked me to come to MGH for an emergency CT scan just to rule out a pulmonary embolism.

As I was getting ready to go to the hospital, a call came in from Utah, where my mother and stepfather lived. It wasn’t yet daybreak there so I knew something must be wrong. My stepfather was on the other end of the line and he began to cry as he told me that my mother, Evalynn, had passed away in the night.

Mom, gone.

I fought back tears and panic both as I drove the hour into Boston. My daughter met me at the hospital and when the tech emerged post scan I jokingly asked ‘so is my cancer all gone?’ No, but almost. And the blood? Likely a result of rapid tumor necrosis.

And then my heart broke because the person I wanted to call first was no longer here.

However, grief was side by side with joy: I was going to have more time to spend with my three children; Jemesii, August and Peter. Being a mom is the one thing that keeps me going no matter what—my raison d’être.

In three weeks one of my (now adult) children will be moving back in with me. The reality is, he still needs his mother. And I am absolutely thrilled that I have the privilege of being here. For him. For me. For life.

4 responses to “For all you tough mothers out there

  1. What a gem you are. Thanks for this lovely post.

  2. melissa burton

    What a touching post. My mother passed when I was 28 of lung cancer so I’ve always viewed mother’s day with mixed feelings. But I am heading to high tea at a beautiful hotel with my beautiful daughters ages 19 and 17. My mother never met my girls but I am determined to meet my own grandchildren. Thank you for your posts. You are a continuous inspiration to me. Happy mother’s day!

  3. Whenever I see your smiling face I always feel uplifted and your words lift me higher xx

  4. Wow, has Peter graduated already? Time flies! I have been reading your blog and cheering you along for a long time now. One question I have had, how do you pronounce “Jemesii”? It’s so pretty as a written word, but I don’t know how it should sound.

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