For Pete’s sake

The month of August flew by; visits, appointments, camp and ironing. Not necessarily in that order.

Soon after my stay with Melinda and Kihan, our friend Julia and her boyfriend Keith travelled from Boston to join us for a meal which I prepared; in itself a simple joy (feeling well enough to cook!). Pete’s friend Miggles was staying over and Julia shared photos of her recent trip to Finland. The next day Pete and I dropped Miggles off in Concord and also attended a Love Your Neighbor event hosted by our friends at New American Africans.

Love Your Neighbor

Love Your Neighbor

The following week, Peter and I made a day trip to New Bedford for a meal with Jamie; we’ve not seen him since Christmas. Our daughter Jemesii and Jamie have filed for divorce but, realistically, are both happier now. As Jamie’s been part of our family for some years, it is important to me (and Peter) to maintain contact and just check up on him now and again—I’m glad we did.

And then, on August 18th, David dropped Peter off at his third Camp Kesem, a wonderful summer camp for children who have or have had a parent with cancer. Some of you may remember earlier posts from 2012 and 2011—and I wrote a blog about this year’s experience for There was also a report on Fox News about Camp Kesem MIT, and if you look closely, Peter makes two appearances.

Yet again Peter found the experience of camp transformative and a highlight of his summer. As we have done previous years, the two of us stopped at Flour Bakery & Cafe post pick-up for an early dinner. Over yummy roast beef sandwiches, Peter spoke with enthusiasm but also a certain sense of sadness; every year some of the campers and counselors ‘age out’ and the uncertainty of reunion is never easy.

Post Camp Kesem 2013

Post Camp Kesem 2013

However, hellos and goodbyes are all part of life, and Peter is already looking forward to Camp Kesem next year.

Summer wouldn’t be summer without a visit to Mary and Raleigh’s home in Meredith, and now that I can indulge, I was able to enjoy one of Mary’s special martinis (an olive and a pickled onion). We had a great time; leaving with full bellies, fuller hearts and very sore cheeks (from all the laughing).

David and Peter also took a special boy’s trip to Mattapoisett. Four days of fishing, crabbing and sleeping in the camper with one happy but smelly golden retriever (sick from drinking seawater). So glad I wasn’t there, and yet got to enjoy some fresh crab upon their return.

And then, the frantic days leading up to Peter’s departure. All those button down shirts to iron. An exercise in matching—I asked Peter to put together various ‘outfits’, pants, shirts and ties. I shouldn’t have worried; he’s a natural. David taught him to tie a tie—again, Peter mastered this new skill with ease. As he was going out for crew (intramural), he would need to take a swim test so we went over his strokes. It all came so easily that I teased Peter he was born to this (prep school) life.

In an exercise in sentimentality, the two guys watched Milo and Otis, Peter’s favorite movie ever. Aside:  Milo and Otis is a sweet flick about the close friendship between a pug and a tabby cat. Narrated by Dudley Moore and free of ‘artificial’ special effects, it is delightful and Peter must have watched it fifty times. However, I always felt a nagging sense of unease about some of the perilous situations the actual animals were placed in during filming. Orange tabby cats are rather ubiquitous and I hoped they weren’t considered expendable. Well, Peter, if you’re reading this, stop now. I happened upon this site today and my first fears might well be realized. Just another example of do your research (or, not).

Anyway, the actual day came, and a week ago we dropped Peter off at PEA. It was hectic, heartwarming and occasionally humorous. Example:  The Duffs went to the bookstore intending to get dad (David) some PEA swag, and while there noticed that all the other families were purchasing books. Oh yeah….books! David walked back to the car to fetch Peter’s class list and while Peter and I were sitting on a bench outside the store he turned to me and said something along the lines of, “I have this awful feeling we don’t know what’s going on…” I told him not to worry, we weren’t the only ones and that it would all be figured out.

Two days later I returned to campus for a meeting with a counselor. I’d brought along a rug for Peter’s room and we met up. I must say, the young lad was looking dapper:

Making a pretty face for mom

Making a pretty face for mom

Fun trivia fact:  Peter is in a single room, small and rather like a monk’s cell. Quiet though, and private. And….it’s the same room Mark Zuckerberg lived in his junior (or when he was an ‘upper’, to use the PEA lexicon)  year at Phillips Exeter Academy (he moved across the hall the next year).

One week in, all seems to be well. Peter’s already moved to a more advanced spanish class. He’s had his first crew practice which was ‘crazy’, but fun. I don’t believe he is a bit homesick. I think our boy is going to be just fine. And the grown-ups? We’re going to be okay too.

10 responses to “For Pete’s sake

  1. Sounds like a wonderful summer Linnea. I smiled at the learning to tie a tie. I worked in a small elementary school and many times at the Grade 5 graduation I had small boys with tie in hand asking if anyone could tie it for them as their dads couldn’t. I always surprised them that I could. They didn’t know that I had to wear a uniform with tie when I was at school. Sometimes we just don’t know when our talents become useful. Wishing you all a successful year!

    • Beryl, I can just see you teaching 5th graders how to tie a tie. Peter learned with surprising ease….I still must learn (I’ve got some beautiful vintage ties I’d like to wear now and again!).


      ps: I’d love to see a photo of you sometime in one of those school uniforms.

  2. Now, wonder where that Peter got his sense of style, huh? He looks great and we’re so glad he’s happy. Xo xo

    • Cristina, Peter was a little worried that his clothes might be too ‘bright’—you know I like some flash…but I think he’s going to fit in just fine. And I feel his combination of colors is just right (and fun to boot). Hope you’re having a wonderful and stylish time in Amsterdam!


  3. Kathleen Gereghty

    Looks like Peter already has the Prep School look. He is so adorable! Glad all are adjusting to boarding school

    • Kathleen, from t-shirts and athletic shorts to this—the kid’s a quick study. And yes, it is an adjustment for all of us 🙂 Hope you had a fine time with Will and Pat!


  4. A birdie leaves the nest! Congratulations to all of you. Well done!
    xoxo J

    • Last to go, though as you know I am trying to coax one back (at least temporarily). In the meantime, I am excited for Pete and starting to try my own wings. As soon as I nail down my next treatment plan (or not) I want to talk about flying your way for a quick visit…


  5. I love the preppy look and Peter has it to a T. I had a neighbor teen that every time he needed to wear a tie, he called me and came to my house for my husband to show him and basically tie the tie. Neither mom or dad could do it. Did this for years. We have since moved so I hope he finally learned. Of course, now bow ties seem to be back and they come with clips which is all the boys need. Velcro and Clips instead of tying shoe laces and ties.

    • Cheryl, we didn’t give Pete the option of an easy way out (including but not limited to simply leaving his ties knotted; nothing ruins a tie faster). Fortunately, he was a quick study. And hey, pretty cute story about the neighbor teen 🙂


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