A gentleman known as stageIVsurvivor

This particular guest post is actually the distillation of a telephone conversation that I had with my friend known by our online community as stageIVsurvivor, but more informally as G. When I became part of the INSPIRE community four and a half years ago, G was already a well established member, and practically a legend.

Diagnosed on November 30th, 1999, G’s lung cancer had metastasized to his brain. Nonetheless, his oncologist was confident that his cancer could be cured and remarkably, after a combination of surgery, chemo and gamma knife, G has been out of treatment and cancer free since November of 2000.

Prior to his diagnosis of lung cancer, G smoked. And he still does.

I will be the first to admit that I have had some trouble with this fact, as it flies in the face of all reason. Forget stigma for a moment; it just seems like a good idea to stop smoking if you have lung cancer. However, I am also adamant that one of the best ways to combat stigma is for smokers and former smokers to stand tall and refuse to be bullied or shamed into believing that they somehow deserve a diagnosis of lung cancer. No one deserves this or any other disease, and I was pleased when G agreed to share his story.

After our conversation, I came away with a much greater understanding of who this complicated individual is. Certainly, as a long term survivor of stage IV lung cancer, he provides incredible inspiration. In our forum, he often injects a dose of humor. Occasionally he can come across as a real curmudgeon, and G and I have had a dust-up or two. However, if you were to ask many of those he has helped behind the scenes, they would describe a generous and caring individual.

I was curious as to why someone who had not been in treatment for 12 years would be drawn to a support group for lung cancer survivors.  “I’m just one of the very, very lucky ones…it is my responsibility to do what I can for other people.” G emphasizes that his continued “participation on Inspire is only to help those still suffering and their families“.

Crediting an amazing medical team for his successful treatment, G is on a personal crusade to educate others about the importance of “proper treatment, proper direction and proper insight“. He abhors complacency, and often urges patients to seek a second opinion.

As for his own unconventional approach to survival, G is blunt. First, about the fact that he initially faced his diagnosis with anything but optimism. “I was angry and had a horrible attitude“. Unfortunately, G also ended up addicted to pain medication, and at one point just wanted to give up. However, he experienced a moment of clarity, realizing that he ‘wasn’t dead yet‘. Even while “lamenting the fact that I wouldn’t be around to raise my sons” G acknowledged that he “wasn’t doing a good job then“. He went into rehab and beat his addiction to the pain meds.

And so why does G still smoke? Certainly, there was a sense of “the horses are already out of the barn“–the damage done. But it would seem that the real reason is that having beaten both drugs and alcohol (G acknowledges that he has an addictive personality), he has found nicotine that much more difficult to kick. He’s giving e-cigarettes a try, and if they don’t do the trick, he may try something like chantix. Of course, given his personal stuggle with addiction, he is leary of any chemical intervention.

At any rate, on November 30th, G will mark his 13th year of surviving stage IV lung cancer. He’s a very lucky man, and he knows it.

13 responses to “A gentleman known as stageIVsurvivor

  1. Linnea, You and G are both SUCH inspirations!! My Dad passed on 8/31 after only 4 1/2 months with NSCLC. I’m still drawn to Inspire and your blog. I think you and G and others like you make me feel empowered against LC. It may have taken my own Daddy, but it doesn’t get everyone!! I am so grateful that you and G put your stories out there. You may be unaware that family members of those who have lost their LC battles find comfort in you. Thank you both.

    • Karin, thanks for the comment. I am sorry for the loss of your father but admire your spirit. And funny thing, but those of us battling lung cancer take comfort from those of you who remain part of our community despite your loss. Thank you.

      Linnea

  2. I love this. G was a big inspiration to me and my family and I will always cherish him

  3. I have so enjoyed meeting these interesting people in your Inspire network, Linnea. What a fabulous idea of yours to share these stories. I haven’t commented on each one, but I have read with interest and awe about the struggles and efforts each person has made in this journey to deal with adversity, and also healing.

  4. Linnea- thank you for relating all these stories. Your generous soul is a blessing to us all. I have enjoyed G’s commentary for a long time; it is so nice to see a photo of him, the venerable and sainted Mrs. G, and the next-gen Gs!
    XOXO
    Joan

    • Thank you Joan. G’s a character and although his dogs are pretty (generally all we get to see of his family)–it’s nice to see the people too.

      Linnea

  5. Linnea, thank you for this. G’s story is very inspiring to me. He is a living proof that some people can beat stage 4 lung cancer.

    Regards,
    Silvia

  6. MARIA KRZESOWIAK

    Great story-inspirational and gives us all hope. Thanks G for sharing
    with us. You have a beautiful family.
    MARIA

  7. Thank you for bringing us these stories, Linnea. I read this article on G with a smile on my face – such a character! G is a true survivor in every sense of the word, having beat two insidiously powerful addictions. His battle with lung cancer must have been especially daunting and infuriating for an individual with such incredible warrior instincts. However, G has taught us that we can substantially increase our chances of survival by shaking off our feelings of helplessness and becoming powerful, educated, and involved advocates for ourselves. Not only has G been a source of inspiration and hope – behind the scenes this well armored, self-deprecating softy in disguise has been an outstretched hand and broad shoulder for so many, and I truly believe he has saved lives by shaking us out of shock induced stupors and prodding us into educating ourselves and becoming pro-active in our treatment. He is one of the sincerest practitioners of “giving back” on this forum. Bless you G, and thank you.

    Chris

    • Chris, I learned some things about G in our conversation–it is not always easy to read between the lines in an online forum. We are blessed to have many dedicated members, and G is a keeper.

      Linnea

  8. Hello George,
    Love the picture, love the post, love you George.
    You are and always be my friend,
    Anjee

    Many, many thanks Linnea.

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